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Parenting is a tough job. It's even tougher if you're doing it alone - especially if you never expected to do it alone. Sometimes
you may feel guilty because you believe that children are better off in two-parent household. You may feel angry because your
'ex' doesn't provide for the children, or rarely sees them. You may even wish you never had children, or you resent one particular
child. And, then you may feel bad because you even thought these things.
Many parents struggle with feelings like these. That doesn't mean they have less love for their children or that they are
bad parents. What can you do? Acknowledge these feelings. Talk to a trusted friend, another single parent, or a counselor
about how you're feeling. Otherwise, unspoken resentments can build and lead to more serious consequences.
Acknowledge that you can be the best parent for your child, but accept that you can't make your 'ex' into a good parent. The
best thing you can do is take care of yourself and keep supportive people in your life. And, be kind to yourself. Ask a neighbor
to watch your children so you can take a walk alone or enjoy a quiet bath. Plan an activity and ask another single parent
to come. Maintain adult contact - join a parent support group or religious group. Take care of yourself - it may the greatest
gift you can give to your family.
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